I have a fun story to tell you. It’s about a prior post titled “I Love You.”
My friend “Stella” called (the name is changed to protect, not her, but her husband and you’ll soon know why). She is one of the many people who have written or told me that they are doing the “I Love You” practice. She enthusiastically related to me how it’s going and then told me what happened for her husband. In case you are wondering, they’ve both given me permission to tell it the story.
Not long ago, Stella’s husband, (call him Max) was speaking/presenting at a conference. He invited his parents to attend, because it was an important event for him, and they did. During his talk, he invited his father to come to the stage and eulogize him. Max had seen someone eulogizing another while they were still alive and thought it was a wonderful idea. Unfortunately, Max’s father declined.
Later, Max told Stella he was disappointed. Why would his father not do this?
She asked him, “What did you want to hear from your father?”
Max replied “I’m proud of you son.”
So, Stella offered the “I love you” practice to Max. She told him to just cup his hands around his ears and say “I love you [your name]” and she went on to say that she was experiencing a nice effect from doing it every night before she goes to sleep.
“When are you doing that?” he asked.
She responded, “I do it when you’re not here.”
Stella brilliantly suggested to Max that he use the practice to say “I’m proud of you son.”
A day or two later, Max was journaling about his experience and mentioned to Stella that he thought it was a good technique.
“Have you been doing it?” she asked.
He said he’d slipped into the closet and told himself, “I’m proud of you Max” once in each ear, (using his own name instead of son).
He wrote in his journal, “It’s brought a big smile to my face. Good technique.”
I laughed with delight when my friend related this story to me. It’s so simple. It’s so easy. All we have to do is tell ourselves what we long to hear. Saying it out loud boosts the power (see my prior posting for the reason why).
Hiding in the closet, saying it in private, that’s what I find so intriguing and I’m no less shy than anyone else. There’s something we find embarrassing about saying kind things to and about ourselves, and we are dying to hear those words. To me, that’s like being thirsty and waiting for someone to offer us a drink rather than just pouring ourselves a glass of water.
This is a form of sound healing. You can do it once or you can make it a daily practice. Like meditation or playing an instrument, you will likely see more profound, surprising and sustainable results if you make it a consistent practice. If you miss here and there, don’t fret. If doing it before you go to sleep doesn’t work, try it when you are taking your daily shower. You may find that there are a number of different things you want to say to yourself. There’s no rule, except to let it be loving. You’ve had plenty of practice with negative self- criticism and derision.
This is meant to be loving and easy.
What I am suggesting is we all come “out of the closet” and let ourselves openly love our selves. We are original beings born from Divine source. What’s not to love? What’s not to forgive? Maybe that’s your practice, “I forgive you [your name here].” I’ve done that one many times with wonderful results.
What do you want to hear? Tell it to yourself today and every day, using your own name, until you embody it. Your family and friends will thank you and the world will likely be a better place for it.
In an upcoming post, I’ll write about I Love You…from a relationship perspective.
Thanks Max and Stella (wink wink). I’m proud of both of you and I love you both like crazy!
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